What to pay for your eleven-year affection
At the look 11 years ago, he deeply branded her in his heart.
At the age of 11, he never gave up looking for her and finally found her, but she didn’t know if she should follow him, even though he is now brilliant and her marriage is like a stagnant water.
■ Introduction: Xiangyu (pseudonym) ■ Gender: Female ■ Age: 30 years old ■ Education: The secondary school is the gentleness of that look. My hometown is a county on the Yangtze River.
After finishing secondary school in that small county, I entered the county government office and became a small clerk.
At the age of eighteen or nineteen, he didn’t understand anything, but he was very stingy and lived in a simple joy all day.
Bei Ming (pseudonym) was in love with me at that time.
Beiming is a native of Chengde, Hebei, tall and bold.
He came to our small county to do office equipment business and met me in government agencies.
I was not impressed with the first meeting, but Bei Ming said that he was very impressed: when he walked in, I was sitting cross-legged on the carpet, and had no reason to be happy.
It was a bit hot in April, and there were some small beads of sweat on the tip of my nose, and glitter on the sharp little nose.
The warm sun covered my hair.
Bei Ming said that with that glance, he couldn’t help but fall in love with me.
This is what happened 11 years ago.
When Bei Ming found me last November, he used the word “stunning” to describe it.
He said the scene remained in his mind.
It was that wonderful feeling that kept him looking for me for 11 years.
At that time 11 years ago, Bei Ming stayed only a few days before leaving.
He came back less than two days after leaving, and made a special trip to give me a gift.
He brought me a very cute little alarm clock with a beautiful love poem.
I left the gift in my office and hurried away.
Colleagues said that Bei Ming’s love for me was unabashed.
But at that time I was unconscious and didn’t take him seriously.
Besides, Bei Ming was a 31-year-old married man at the time. I thought he just liked my simplicity and cuteness.
In the following 11 years, Bei Ming became a vague tall figure in my impression.
Four months after Bei Ming left, I left my hometown and came to Wuhan.
He has since lost contact with him.
10 years of emotional life is like a pool of standing water. In April 1994, I met my current husband Han Wei (pseudonym).
At that time I was the foreman in the hotel. The hotel was run by a friend of Hanwei. He often came to eat and saw me.
According to himself, he was in love with me at first sight.
Han Wei was two years older than me, who had just graduated from college and was doing business by himself.
He has a flexible mind and is particularly hardworking.
By 1998, his career had not improved, and family members persuaded me to break up with him, to find a better one for me.
My spirits came up, and I was determined to be with Han Wei.
From the age of 20 to 27, we have been dating for 7 years.
In the end, the person was tired and no more passion. Both felt that if they didn’t get married again, they would only have a break up. It seemed to be an explanation for the relatives and friends on both sides. In May 2002, we held a wedding.
In fact, in the legal sense, we are not legal couples, because we have never obtained a marriage certificate.
After I came to Wuhan, my parents moved a few times, and my household registration in my hometown was also lost, so the marriage certificate has been dragged out.
A year later, Han Wei began to often stay away from the night.Soon, when a girl came to her home and knew me as Han Wei’s wife, tears ran down.
I understand: this is the “third party” between me and Han Wei.
Afterwards, I talked to the girl and had a deep talk. I said that if they truly loved each other, I would do well.
But Han Wei confessed to me and said that she would live with me.
I did n’t make a noise, I did n’t make a noise, and I could n’t handle the whole thing, but my psychological shadow could never be removed.
Later, a series of things happened that made me completely lose trust in Hanwei.
One of our very good friends celebrated their birthday and they joined to sing.
When I got there, I didn’t realize that the ladies in that area seemed to be familiar with Han Wei. He greeted him all the way, just like the king of that kingdom.
Throughout the night, Han Wei was particularly irritated and restless.
He sent me home in advance, saying that there were some things to go back to arrange, and it was another night.
Just before dawn, I sent him a text message saying that we were completely done.
Han Wei has always “enlightened” me like this: Now the social atmosphere outside is like this, as long as the man’s heart is still at home, you don’t ask too much.
I’ve always wanted a child, and Han Wei always said that we can’t afford it now.
Due to the issue of getting a marriage certificate, he is even more unavoidable now.
My parents died prematurely, and their relationship with Han Wei was so salty and indifferent. I felt a sense of wandering, like an orphan.
Another man has been looking for me for 11 years. Last November, I received a text message from Bei Ming.
Seeing the text message, I suddenly remembered the tall figure sealed in my heart.
It turned out that since I came to Wuhan in 1994, Beiming had to go to my hometown every two years to find me. He was at the police station and the neighborhood committee checked my hukou.
A major flood occurred in 1998. Bei Ming said that he dreamed about the fact that I was washed away by the flood every night, and was anxious to call my hometown radio station to ask for information.
In November last year, Bei Ming drove from Chengde to my hometown and brought three subordinates.
This time, he gave his subordinates a death order: In such a large county, you must find my jade even if you turn over the land.
After all their troubles, they searched for a large group of relatives, and finally learned my phone number from one of my aunts, and then sent me a text message as soon as possible.
Bei Ming said to see for myself how I was doing.
If I am not doing well, he must take me away.
But I refused, but kept on the phone.
In March of this year, Bei Ming ran to Wuhan to find me.
Before that, I secretly vowed that if I hadn’t seen him before my 30th birthday, I would never see him again.
Coincidentally, the day Bei Ming came was my 30th birthday.
We met at a Western restaurant in Hankou, and Bei Ming brought me a platinum necklace as a gift. I refused.
Bei Ming’s sadness is that if you don’t accept it, then I have to go.
He said this twice, and I still didn’t promise to accept his gift. He got up and left, and the necklace was on the table.
I asked the waiter to run out to him.
This is how we meet again after 11 years.
I don’t know where to go from here Beiming is now the typical “successful person”.
He has done a great job, is the boss of a large group company, almost every city in the north has his branch or office.
This is why it is difficult for me to decide to give up everything to follow him.
Bei Ming said, spiritually, anything in the material, as long as you want, I will give you.
And that paper of marriage, if you insist, I will give it to you.
I am now reckless.
You are a peach demon, clothed a peach blossom array, and took away my soul 11 years ago. I think he is losing his mind now.
With his current achievements and scope, one can imagine how much a divorce will have an impact on his career.
In early April, at the request of Bei Ming, I went to Chengde.
Bei Ming took me to meet some of his best friends, and then took me to see his branch in Beijing and the house he bought for more than 1.2 million yuan in Beijing.
Bei Ming hoped that I would stay and said that this house was bought for me.
After two days in the north, I hurried back.
I have been very contradictory since I came back. In the past few days, Bei Ming has been sending me text messages to remind me to pass. Sincerely, you do n’t have to make a decision right away. You can first look at my career, inspect my people, and see if we canCan’t live a lifetime together.
Bei Ming said that he can tolerate all of me, my stubbornness and willfulness, and he will accept all the advantages and disadvantages of me.
I have no doubt about Bei Ming’s feelings for me. If he is not sincere, a 42-year-old man should not have such great passion, and he will not persistently look for me for 11 years.
I’m in a dilemma right now, and morally and family-wise, I should stay.
But this means that I still have to endure Han Wei’s debauchery.
On the one hand is the man who loves me and the unpredictable future, and on the other hand is a marriage like a stagnant water. I don’t know where to go.
[Postscript]The man’s long-cherished responsibility, Bei Ming said a lot, “And there is that paper, if you insist, I will give it to you.
“What does it mean to insist?”
What does “also give”?
Isn’t it taken for granted?
A man who has a marriage who is crazy about pursuing another woman, no matter how persistent or infatuated, is zero.
How enthusiastic he is about Xiangyu, the deeper he hurts his wife.
Residual wine in the old bottle has not been cleaned up, how can you rush into the new wine?
Xiangyu followed Beiming to Chengde to see the company and to Beijing to see the big house. He must have been excited?
Helpless “from the perspective of morality and family responsibilities, I should stay”, so outsiders need to encourage.
Your marriage is your own responsibility.
Since marriage is “in order to give an explanation to both parents and relatives and friends”, why not continue to explain it?
Xiangyu’s husband is one of the reasons, but the real fuse should be the extinguished love in her heart, but she didn’t know whether Bei Ming rose up or could last a lifetime.
For some men, a woman who did not get when she was young is just a sad heart.
Got it, the wish was gone, and there was no woman behind.
Will Bei Ming be such a person?
The answer lies in Xiangyu’s own heart.