Seven things men don’t want to share
Men have always been social animals, playing by nature, and like being hilarious, but sometimes they have their own private territory, and this territory can be hit by anyone, even his hardcore friends and close partners.
1 Secret hobby phenomenon that people do not want to share: If there is a day, he has been locked tightly and forgot to close it. You are curious to open it and find that there are many children’s comic books, kite cats and snoopy dogs hidden inside.
Don’t ask him, because he doesn’t want others to know, even the people closest to him.
If he is afraid of being hit, when he tells you that when you want to stay alone, you are reading his villain’s book, or playing with children’s favorite things, you have to give him full freedom.
When a man is coquettish in front of you, he should be fortunate, because he treats you as his own person, and then reveals to you the deepest side.
Maybe women never understand, but she must accept the reality that men become themselves, not others, because of their special hobbies.
Analysis: The man’s bones are also very fragile. He has a child complex, and his yearning for purity can be said to be a return to instinct.
Occasionally he was willing to find a trace of his innocence in this reserved world.
Such men deserve more distress.
2 Pursuing the past phenomenon of love in his memories: he has a picture of the girl who was secretly in love at the age of eighteen, a letter from the first girlfriend, and a tie from his ex-wife.
Occasionally he looked at the photos and love letters secretly, and smiled foolishly, no matter whether you were jealous or jealous in your heart, but you must smile when facing him.
Analysis: Everyone has memories of beautiful love. A man is not unable to afford it, he is just nostalgic for a once beautiful youth.
Remember, he chooses you now, and he has a reason, he loves you-wants to live with you.
Maybe once, he will tell you everything about himself.
If he feels that you don’t need to know this, and believe that he will handle it well, give him space for memories.
3 The emperor phenomenon in the virtual world: Almost all men like video games, but that is a youth accessory. At a certain age, not many big men will persist.
If a man who looks very mature is still obsessed with video games, it means that his psychological adolescence is not complete.
However, there are still a large number of men sitting in front of the computer and forgetting the existence of the world, playing dimly, and not willing to be disturbed by anyone.
Analysis: The synthesis of men’s heroism complex and idealism complex.
A man’s potential restlessness factor, like fighting and violence, and virtual worlds such as games, just meet his inner needs.
He can play a tyrannical emperor, a passionate prodigal son, a troubled son, and the change in these roles is also a psychological need of men.
In this space where outsiders can’t intervene, he got a lot of things he wanted and got pleasure.
4 healing phenomenon when injured: Someone finds someone again, the phone is set to leave a message, the mobile phone is turned off, and he disappears with the outside world.
When I got home, I didn’t want to say a word, I just wanted to stay in the bathroom or study, smoke a cigarette, or daze, and solemnly stated that I didn’t want to be disturbed.
Analysis: Men are like little beasts, running around all day, there are always times when they are injured, and when they are hurt or failing, they long for themselves to be quiet for a while, and sum up their mistakes carefully,Perform healing.
They do not want others to see such a frustrated side, they are willing to give people a look of vitality and vitality.
Because men are big men, any difficulties can be solved by themselves.
Tell me everywhere?
In his opinion that might be what women do.
So it’s best not to disturb him first, and when he thinks about it himself, he will tell you these things frankly.
5 Silence after making love: Many women refuse that men always fall asleep or don’t care much about themselves after making love, not at all tender.
In fact, many men like to stay alone for a while after that.
Analysis: After extreme excitement and exhaustion, the delicate and sensitive man really understands what “color is empty”. At this moment, he will feel that everything in the world is just like this, and suddenly feel boring, lost and sentimental. This is a psychology unique to some men and has nothing to do with loving you.
When he comes back to God, the person he loves most is the person next to him.
But you have to forgive him for a moment of isolation and silence.
6 Facing challenges, planning the phenomenon alone: Men like challenges. When they encounter any problems at work, they are willing to stay alone for a while, so the secretary must not knock on his door at this time, or even give him coffeeTo be trained.
Analysis: Men like to fight with confidence, he doesn’t want to tell others before things are done successfully.
”Behind closed doors,” this is a man planning his career and planning for the future.
Men’s world is full of challenges and pressures. When they face a major turn in life, they are always used to making decisions by themselves and then telling women the results.
“Resignation”, “loan to buy a house”, “lend money to others”, etc., are shocking decisions in women’s eyes. They do not tell women in advance.
From a woman’s point of view, this man’s behavior is incomprehensible in any case.
She would think, “Why don’t you talk to me about such a big thing?
Am I so insignificant in his eyes?
“Actually, the man is not trying to hide anything. He just doesn’t want the dear to bear the pressure and trouble that should have been suffered by the man.
Therefore, as a partner, in addition to silent support, do not look for trouble.
7People walking in different places: Many times, men like to go to other places and change to another way to show his other side.
For example, one day, on a street in Paris, you discovered that a former colleague was on vacation. He was originally a very quiet and calm person, but at this moment you see him and the street artist selling loudly together.Have fun.
Please don’t be surprised, and don’t go up to ask, because he doesn’t want acquaintances to see himself like this.
Analysis: Men face a lot of pressure in society. They need to vent and release pressure.
So many times men like to stay in an unfamiliar city for a while. While admiring the beautiful scenery, they will arrange all the precautions and pressures, release the man’s nature, spend the time happily and easily, and recharge the future work and life.
Maybe a person who is very noisy will stay quiet for a few days in some places. A person who is very quiet will have madness like never before, it is just a channel for them to vent, because in strange surroundings and crowdsHere, they don’t need to pretend or hide anything.
So please let them go alone.
In fact, the need for “private territory” is mainly a manifestation of his versatility in the transformation of a man’s multiple roles.
The social side can be seen, and the personal side is unwilling to be known by anyone. Only in this way can a man release himself completely.
These have potential psychological characteristics unique to men, so be sure to understand them, and do n’t try to expand.